I have an abortion story. A story I have never shared with anyone. Spoiler alert: there is no heroic arc to this story for me. I have never shared it because I was able to forget about it, parcel it up and move on with my life, a simple and momentary stumble in my serene, privileged journey. I share it today in solidarity with women. I believe in a woman’s right to choose. As a male, I should have no oversight in this matter, and a perspective that is maybe worth acknowledging, and nothing more: In my first job after … Continue reading An abortion story.
I was up at 5am this morning, a weekend, after a disrupted night of sleep because a small thing in my room crying every hour, not wanting to be left alone in its bed. We are puppy sitting for 2 … Continue reading Parenting Reminder.
One of the kids turned 13 this week, we have a teenager in the house. The eye rolling and general disdain for anything we have to offer has been present for quite some time, so some of the shock has … Continue reading Teen Spirit
My kids think I am so lame. They are at the eye-rolling age. My sane refrain to them that “I am really cool, actually, one day you will realize that,” falls on deaf ears, surprisingly. The fact that I listen … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 50: Loser.
Do you know why we build gingerbread houses at Christmas? I have no idea – probably something we stole from the Germans, who seems to be behind a lot of Yuletide tradition. Well, we have three built in the house, … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 40: Tradition.
The Last Post is the most poignant of laments. It always brings a tear to the eye. At 1100 on 11 November each year, the family gathers together at the cenotaph and remembers those who fell in service, and the … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 35: Remembrance.
It was a slightly weird Thanksgiving. We still had the turkey, and there was still plenty of leftovers. But the turkey was “normal” sized. The dishwasher was done after 2 fillings, vs. our usual 5. All the leftover food easily … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 31: Giving Thanks.
I have two kids, both girls. I am uncertain about the use of these hashtags I see online celebrating being a father to girls, like it is an unusual or unexpected gift. They are just my kids. Thereafter, we start … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 28: Girls.
I am increasingly caught between contrasting thoughts about the pandemic’s impact on us. It sucks, it stresses and frustrates and intimidates. Also, we have our health, we have each other, we need to suck it up and not complain. The … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 26: Mental Health.
A bigger overhang to our lives since COVID lock down than unemployment has been the health and wellness of our elderly parents, each of the three having been admitted to hospital at some point in the last few months with … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 24: I Miss You
I find myself at a loose end today. Everything is very quiet. The kids are entertaining themselves, the dog sitting for one dog has ended. As for our dog, she was spayed this week so she is very low energy … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 20: Normality
So, I was laid off in March, at the time of COVID lockdown. Fairly straightforwardly, I stayed in the house, and the family dispersed to various locations to keep their sanity and do their work and hobbies. Lola took over … Continue reading COVID Diaries Week 10: Worldview Edition.